DEAR ABBY: I’ve been in love with my greatest pal for 2 years. We met at a summer season camp the place we have been each working, and we hated one another to start with. In the course of the means of working collectively, we one way or the other grew to become greatest buddies, and I fell desperately in love with him.
We speak on the cellphone for hours and textual content one another every day. He is aware of every thing about me to the purpose that I swear he is aware of me higher than I do know myself. We hand around in teams principally. We not often spend time alone. Once we are collectively, our chemistry is plain. We consistently chortle, contact, tease, and so on. Everybody round us sees our connection, they usually’re confused after we say we’re not relationship.
I sort of expressed my emotions to him a couple of 12 months in the past, however he mentioned he wasn’t able to date anybody. Since then, we now have grown nearer, and our relationship is extra unclear. His actions lead me to consider that he feels the best way I do and regards me as greater than a pal, however he will not make a transfer or inform me his emotions.
The laborious half about that is, I am transferring in 5 months. Our time collectively is coming to an finish, however I have not advised him how I really feel as a result of I do not need his affection or our frequent communication to cease. Do I inform him my emotions once more and threat being rejected? Or ought to I simply inform him I’m transferring and see if he admits his true emotions for me? — DEEP IN THE HEARTBREAK OF TEXAS
DEAR DEEP: Clearly, this particular person cares so that you can a point. Inform him how you’re feeling face-to-face when you nonetheless can. That you simply care a lot for him is a praise. Nevertheless, if he nonetheless does not really feel as strongly for you as you hope, as soon as you progress, I hope you’ll regard it as a chance to fulfill new individuals and kind new relationships till you discover a particular somebody who reciprocates your emotions. Belief me, he IS on the market.
DEAR ABBY: I’ve learn so many letters in your column about households who’ve all kinds of issues with their youngsters, husband or spouse, in-laws, mother and father and different members of the family. They make me marvel how on the planet I bought so fortunate.
My husband and I raised 4 youngsters — two women, two boys — they usually couldn’t be extra of a blessing. We textual content one another each morning, and I textual content a daughter in Hawaii at evening to let her know I am OK. They name, they ship playing cards, they ship flowers. One son despatched them to me for a number of years on HIS birthday, with a card saying, “Thanks for having me.”
My coronary heart aches for folks who do not have what I’ve. I can solely hope they may discover some peace later. And to my 4 youngsters: Thanks for the happiness you might have introduced me through the years. — GEORGIA MOM
DEAR GEORGIA MOM: Issues are the idea of my column. There are numerous useful, comfortable households, however few of them take the time to write down and share that.
Clearly, you’re a nice guardian, and for that you just deserve congratulations. Nevertheless, there is a component of luck in parenting, and I’ve heard from mother and father who devoted themselves to giving all they might to their youngsters, and their youngsters didn’t grow to be as loving, beneficiant and appreciative as yours. I agree that your loved ones is lucky to acknowledge their blessings, chief amongst them one another.
— Contact Expensive Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.